2008-01-09

Black Women, White Men, and Blogs: Representing Black Women

I know black women are down trodden, need to expand their options, and blah blah blah. White men need to add input to why they like black women, blah, blah, blah.

Sometimes, even if a blog has a particular topic or theme, on occasion it gets boring talking about said topic or theme and running the conversation into the ground.

Most comments go like this for the most part on WM/BW blogs:

BW commenter: Black women are down trodden, stereotyped, need to expand their options, and blah blah blah.
BW commenter: White men need to add input to why they like black women, blah, blah, blah.
WM commenter: ::chirp:: ::chirp::
Another WM commenter: great topic, let me add my two cents.
BW commenter: let's keep talking about the same valid points over and over and over again. That would be so awesome, white men I need validation from you, do you really like us? Seriously, do you love us? I need to hear from you! Keep saying the same shit over and over again.

Some people choose to deviate from this, they start to get familiar with people and their views and they start talking about other things, like in REAL LIFE. I would hate to date a black woman who was obsessed with BW/WM relations to the point that was all she talked about. Same for a man, I would think he had a fetish.

If it bothers that people deviate from the conversation or topic at hand,you skip over it. There are way too many options on the internet for you to feel you must dictate the direction of a blog that isn't even yours!!!! I have a link to a message board on the right dedicated to talking about black women and white men, but guess what they chat about other things too!!!!!!!

I think most people with this complaint come to these particular blogs looking for men. Blogs are not places to get men, they are places to observe, learn, and sometimes comment. Not a dating site.

I am also tired of being a representative of black women. I don't think exactly like every other black women out there. If people think all black women are like me, they are too ignorant to even talk to. Black women are diverse in looks, talk, and ideals. So if I am a representative of black women, I am resigning from the job.

If a white man or any person of another race chooses to look at my viewpoint and say that is reflective of black people, they need to reevaluate why they feel that I represent all black people. 50 Cent or Beyonce don't represent me, but I always see their black asses plastered everywhere, so why would my behavior or thought dictate what another person thinks of black people?