2008-04-30

I HATE HIS FACE



Is it me, or am I the only one tired of looking at this fake ass poser punk boy? OMG I am reverting back to high school with that comment.


Why the hell am I contemplating buying this:



Why do I continue to shop at Rave aka preteen strippers warehouse? Every time I shop there I buy something I can only wear in the presence of my husband around the house. Oh yeah, I know why they shop there, it is because it is uber cheap. As long as my ass can fit in it, I guess I should wear it. When I am 50 is am going to look good in a halter top and denim mini skirt with stiletto heels. I also like that you are guaranteed to continue to have a need for new clothes because they only last three or four wears before falling apart.

2008-04-29

James Lee Woodard Freed After 27 Years

I just wonder what the hell you do after serving 27 years in prison?

Man set to be 17th exonerated by DNA in Dallas County
12:00 AM CDT on Tuesday, April 29, 2008


By JENNIFER EMILY / The Dallas Morning News
jemily@dallasnews.com
Illegally withheld evidence probably caused a man who will be exonerated today to spend more time behind bars than anyone in the country cleared by DNA, the Dallas County district attorney's office and the Innocence Project of Texas said Monday.

James Lee Woodard is expected to be released today by state District Judge Mark Stoltz and become the 17th man exonerated by DNA in Dallas County, which has more DNA exonerations than any other county in the nation.

Mr. Woodard, 55, was sentenced to life in prison in 1981 for the strangulation and rape of his 21-year-old girlfriend, Beverly Ann Jones.

But information that Ms. Jones was with three men – including two later convicted of unrelated sexual assaults – around the time of her death was not disclosed to the defense nor was it thoroughly investigated, said prosecutor Mike Ware, who oversees the Dallas County district attorney's office conviction integrity unit.

Evidence that could benefit a defendant is required by law to be turned over to a defendant, though there is no criminal punishment for not doing so.

Mr. Ware said Mr. Woodard received a "fundamentally unfair" trial. He said he believes the evidence is something that prosecutors at the time should have investigated, "or at least turn it over so the defense could investigate."

Before the district attorney's office agreed that the DNA that exonerated Mr. Woodard of the rape also exonerated him of the murder – in itself an unusual step – a forensic pathologist examined the file and concluded that Ms. Jones was killed about the same time she was raped.

Her body was found New Year's Eve 1980 near the Trinity River in a wooded area near South Loop 12. The night Ms. Jones was killed, she was with Theodore Blaylock, who was convicted of an aggravated rape committed three weeks after Ms. Jones' death, according to Mr. Ware and testimony from a 1981 post-conviction hearing.

Mr. Blaylock testified at the hearing that he was drinking with Ms. Jones, Edward Mosley and Eddie Woodard, who is not related to James Lee Woodard, one morning in late December 1980.

Mr. Blaylock said he and Mr. Mosley went with Ms. Jones to a South Dallas convenience store where Ms. Jones left and got in another car with three other men. Mr. Blaylock could not provide descriptions.

In 1982, Mr. Blaylock was shot and killed when he tried to rape another woman in her car. She pulled a gun from under the seat and shot him several times, Mr. Ware said.

Eddie Woodard is now a registered sex offender involved in a brutal sexual assault, who the district attorney's office said has absconded from probation. Mr. Mosley's whereabouts were unclear late Monday.

Prosecutors want to compare DNA from the men to the genetic evidence from the rape to find the true culprit.

James Lee Woodard was seeking a new trial at the 1981 hearing, alleging that prosecutors did not fully disclose information about Ms. Jones' whereabouts the night she was killed. The judge, John Ovard, who was also the trial judge, denied the new trial and formally sentenced him.

The judge and the district attorney's office could have righted Mr. Woodard's wrongful conviction in 1981, just months later, said Natalie Roetzel, executive director of the Innocence Project of Texas.

"It's one of the most disturbing things about this case," she said. "Essentially, that was ignored because the investigators had the suspect they wanted."

Also, a prosecution witness changed his testimony since the Innocence Project of Texas, a nonprofit independent legal clinic, began investigating Mr. Woodard's conviction. Ms. Jones' stepfather testified that on the night she was killed, Mr. Woodard came to the apartment in the middle of the night looking for her.

Oscar Edwards now says he believes Mr. Woodard was not the person who came to his door and did not kill his daughter, Mr. Ware said.

Mr. Woodard, who has a record for nonviolent crimes, is the second man cleared by DNA during a review of 350 defendants' requests for DNA tests that were denied under previous District Attorney Bill Hill.

Like many in Dallas County exonerated by DNA, Mr. Woodard was convicted during the era of District Attorney Henry Wade. Current District Attorney Craig Watkins has repeatedly said he believes that during this time, prosecutors were more focused on convictions than justice.

In several handwritten letters, Mr. Woodard begged Mr. Wade to reinvestigate his case and always maintained his innocence. He said that his letters were always answered by a prosecutor saying nothing could be done because a jury convicted him.

In a March 1985 letter, Mr. Woodard wrote to Mr. Wade: "If you found out for yourself that I was innocent, would you let me go?"

SEAN BELL-DO SOMETHING

You guys are familiar with the Sean Bell verdict by now. I am going to post this video.. She has done all the work if you want to be vocal about this verdict. Copy paste and edit to your liking. The addresses and names are provided.



if you have no plans on doing anything but just being mad?

DO SOMETHING!!!


my email address is: truthaccording2me@yahoo.com

http://www.justiceforsean.net

*edit*
all the letters dont fit... here are the address, please email me if you want the whole letters- yt mail is messing up and i'm not getting all your messages. they are also in my blog on myspace

i dont know how to effect the greatest amount of change. i dont know how to take on a system. i dont know how to make them listen, but i know that doing nothing but ranting is not the way to go.

i urge everyone of you to print off these letters, leave a comment, a message, an email asking me to send them to you, forward this video, forward the letters, make your own videos and attach them to this- DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!! just make sure as many letters as possible make it to the powers that be. make sure they know thier postition, thier re-election is in trouble. USE THIS CASE AS A SPRINGBOARD TO LET THE LAW-MAKERS/ ENFORCERS IN YOUR AREA KNOW THEY THEY CANT PLAY THIS GAME EITHER.

i know a drop of water isnt much, but enough of them will fill the bucket- PLEASE HELP

the first letter to Commissioner Kelly:
New York Police Department
Office of the Commissioner
One Police Plaza
New York NY 10038


Your Name
Address
City State Zip

Commissioner Raymond Kelly,

I am writing to you as a citizen of the state of _____. Like many across the country, I have been following the Sean Bell case and eagerly awaiting what I was sure would be a fair and just verdict in the case against Officers Oliver, Cooper and Isnora. I am sad to say that, in my opinion, this was not at all the case.

I am aware that the position of a police officer is one that carries with it great stress, a need for quick
thinking and not nearly as much respect as it deserves. However, in Sean Bells case, this was a gross abuse of power and excessive force. As a citizen of the United States, I am outraged at the verdict handed down in the case of Sean Bell. I am equally outraged with time and time again hearing of abuses such as this coming from a police force you oversee.

I understand that you cannot overturn the verdict. However, I implore you to take immediate action. These officers, along with Officers Headly and Carey, need to be dismissed from their posts. The change in training that officers receive has been noted, but is it enough? Are we due for another outrageous show of violence at the hands of your officers in the near future? I truly hope that is not the case.

These acts within your ranks cannot be erased. Your role in being the head of a group that employs such cowards serving along with, and tarnishing the image of, the noble officers you do have cannot be erased either. You hold just as much responsibility as they do. [If I was] [As] a resident of the City of New York, I [would be] [am] calling for your position to be questioned as well. An action such as this requires swift and long reaching changes to prevent its reoccurrence. Your tenure has certainly not been without other moments of gross negligence and reckless behavior on the part of YOUR officers. It is time to make sure this never happens again, and not just give lip service to a 'better tomorrow'. It is my sincere hope that your current staff does not repeat, yet again, any or all of the actions taken by Officers Oliver, Cooper, Isnora, Headly and Carey.

I am looking forward to reports of major changes at One Police Plaza and for those changes to reach EVERY precinct in New York.


Sincerely,

[Your name]

Mayor Michael A. Bloomberg
City Hall
New York, NY 10007

Federal Bureau of Investigation
26 Federal Plaza
New York, New York 10278

Governor David A. Paterson
State Capitol
Albany, NY 12224

Erykah Badu Offers Newcomers Advice On Getting Into The Music Business

This is too funny!!!! Swiped this from Afrodite's Blog.


2008-04-28

Happy 300th POST and Random Ish


OK You guys this is post number 300. Yay for me, I have way too much time on my hands. Congrats I talk and ramble way too much!!!! YAY!!! For the celebration I will post this pic of Gerard Butler, the IR blogosphere's favorite guy from the movie 300. Isn't that cute!!!

On to other things. I usually don't cross post from the hair blog to here, but this really cracked me up.

On to another topic. Have you guys ever had a friend you had to just leave alone as you realized they can't be helped and they are just going to drag you down in their warped path of destruction? I have a real life non cyber friend (crazy I know) and I have known her for over five years. She has always been a crazy girl, but I never realized how crazy until recently. I have a friend like this. She is a girl who has had a hard time over the years, but she is still holding on to really self destructive behavior. So she has a slight habit of meeting guys off of match.com for dates and ends up sleeping with the majority of them on the first date. I explained to her this is not very helpful in forming a real relationship and that she should call me if she has the urge to sleep with men she claims she isn't even sexually attracted to them. She continued to sleep with folks. In the past year she has slept with two married men, one twice. In her defense the first one she didn't know he was married, but the second one, who she slept with twice she did know was married, but the excuse was, "he chased after me" and she had too much Petron.

I came to the conclusion that I could not help her due to her behavior on myspace. For a long time my man also had a myspace page, that he never maintained. I told him he needed more friends and asked her could I add her to his page, she said yes. I send her a request under his name. She then starts talking to me about one of the men on my page who requested to be her friend. She talks about how hot he is and how she is going to ask him out. It was my husband, I explained this to her and she said I needed to control my man. Mind you I had told her the deal. He got rid of his myspace page, and I told her to review his profile as it did say he was married and I was his #1 friend.

The next incident involved my ex boyfriend (yes my husband knows about him being on my myspace page, my husband actually has my log in and password to check up on me if needed), yes he is single and she is single, but do not go man trolling on my myspace page!!!!!! She starts talking to him after I show her his page. He messages me and asks me what is this girls deal? I tell him I have no clue, and he tells me she seems nice, but she isn't his type. He is definitely into black girls, and this girl is white as the driven snow. As a girl, why would you want your friend's left overs, and why would you be going on her myspace page to pick out potential dates. She was upset that a lot of the guys on my myspace page were gay. I can't have all the men on my page be ex's, that would be weird. Hello!!!!!

To me that is shady behavior, but maybe that is just me?

2008-04-27

I, The Guy Who’s Where He Is Only Because He’s Black.



A great New York Times Op-Ed piece. I love this, because I have had this said to my by ignorant white people more times than I ever should have heard in a lifetime.

VISIBLE MAN
By COLSON WHITEHEAD
Published: April 24, 2008

I TRY to keep a low profile. Maybe you see me in the hallway but don’t know my name. Say hi to me in the coffee room but don’t really know me. I break my silence now because of this election mess. Before the primary in Pennsylvania this week, Bill Clinton was doing magic tricks — now you see the race card, now you don’t. Geraldine Ferraro and Bob Johnson, the founder of Black Entertainment Television, have been complaining that Barack Obama is leading in the Democratic presidential campaign only because of his skin color. Multimillionaire TV pundits are lecturing “the common man” on how outraged they should be about Mr. Obama’s elitism.

It’s all hokum, and I should know. For it is I, The Guy Who’s Where He Is Only Because He’s Black.

Most folks don’t know much about me, apart from the feeling of injustice that hits when I walk into the room with my easy charisma and air of entitlement. I understand. It’s weird when your government passes legislation, like equal opportunity laws, that benefits one single person in the country — me, The Guy Who Got Where He Is Only Because He’s Black.

People think I have it easy, but it’s surprisingly difficult being The Guy Who Got Where He Is Only Because He’s Black, what with the whole having to be everywhere in the country at once thing. One second I’m nodding enthusiastically in a sales conference in Boise, Idaho, and the next I’m separating conjoined triplets at the Institute For Terribly Complicated Surgery in Buchanan, N.Y., and then I have to rush out to Muncie, Ind., to put my little “Inspector 12” tag in a bag of Fruit of the Loom.

It’s exhausting, all that travel. Decent, hard-working folks out there have their religion and their xenophobia to cling to. All I have is a fistful of upgrades to first class and free headphones. Headphones That Should Have Gone to a More Deserving Passenger.

Guns? I wish I had a gun! Ever run out of truffle oil before a dinner party and have to go to Whole Foods on a weekend? It’ll make you want to spread a little buckshot around, that’s for sure.

Look, we’re all hurting, trying to make ends meet. I have serious overhead with all the résumés I send out. The postage is one thing, but I also like to print my résumé on a nice creamy bond. I think it sends a message. Then there’s the dry cleaning and the soap — I prefer to be clean and articulate in my interviews, put my best foot forward. I think it’s working. People are responding to how I present myself.

I know some folks feel bitter about me, as bitter as the first dandelion greens of the season. Yet these people are not without hope, hope that is drizzled on those dandelion greens like a dash of sweet pomegranate vinegar. Do they begrudge the scorpion its sting, or the duck its quack? How can I be other than what I am, The Guy Who Got Where He Is Only Because He’s Black?

Frankly it’s a lot better than my last two gigs, The Guy Who Left the Seat Up and The Guy Who Took the Last Beer, although I do suffer from a lot of work-related injuries, as you can imagine. For all this jibber-jabber about how I don’t understand a working man’s problems, you should take a look at my medical chart. I have carpal tunnel, tennis elbow, miner’s lung, scapegoat rash and vintner’s dropsy, and just last week I burned my thumb making horseshoes. The funny thing is, I didn’t want to be a blacksmith. But I heard they had an opening and I couldn’t help myself.

I put in a good day’s work, unwind with a little Marx, and then settle down for some well-deserved rest. I have a nice bed. It is a California king. It is stuffed with gold doubloons, the treasure I have accumulated by gathering the bonuses and raises that would have gone to Those Who Would’ve Gotten It Except for That Black Guy. The bed is quite comfortable. I sleep O.K.

It makes the head spin, this talk of who’s elitist and who’s not. I’m confused, myself. For years, they said you can’t have this because you’re black, and then when you get something the same people say you got that only because you’re black. I mean, here I am, The Guy Who Got Where He Is Only Because He’s Black, and yet the higher up you go in an organization, the less you see of me.

It’s as if Someone Out to Prevent Me From Getting What I Worked For is preventing me from getting what I worked for. If only there were something — a lapel pin or other sartorial accessory — that would reassure people that I can do the job.

Some people say Barack Obama and I get everything handed to us on a silver platter. But we don’t let it bother us. We’re taking those silver platters and making them our canoes. Then we’ll grab our silver spoons and paddle to a place where people get us. North Carolina, maybe. Or Indiana. I hear Oregon is nice this time of year. We’ll paddle on, brother, paddle all the way to the top.

Colson Whitehead, a fellow at the Cullman Center for Scholars and Writers, is the author of the forthcoming novel “Sag Harbor.”

2008-04-25

Friday Night Party-Ode to 80s Horror B Movies

I was shopping on Amazon.com for DVDs, to my surprise there are a string of movies that are available on DVD that shouldn't be. I remember these movies fondly, as they came on cable repeatedly as a child, and I watched them repeatedly. These movies for a child were scary, but yet entertaining. Tonight my youtube surfing has focused on bad horror b movies of the 1980s.

My first selection, Killer Klowns From Outer Space, I loved this movie, I actually have it somewhere on VHS, as it was so great I recorded it. Note the great acting and special effects:



A great movie with bad premise, bad acting, and death by sex:



These movies were great as well, Ghoulies II, the death by toilet scene, and Critters:





We also have Night of the Creeps:



The Gate:



Not a B-movie, but it was the family friendly horror film, Monster Squad:



Who didn't have a Bop magazine with Ryan Lambert in it? Yall know you watched Kids Incorporated Martika, Fergie, and the other girl from Wild Orchid.

These are bonus clips, as these are more prison movies than horror, but still as trashy and cheesy as the rest:

Reform School Girls



Penitentiary

2008-04-24

Tyra Banks Show-Do Light-Skinned Blacks Have It Easier?

I received an email today from someone (I didn't have their name, just an email addy, sorry I couldn't give credit) and the topic is one that has been discussed recently. Do Light Skinned Blacks Have It Easier. I typically don't watch Tyra, or any daytime talk shows usually, but I think I might tune in to see what exactly is going on. In the clip I was unable to embed off her website. darker skinned black woman shares her experience with having a light skinned sister. She claims her sister was always getting praise and she was asking"when is someone going to tell me I'm pretty" both women were very beautiful, but obviously within their family there was a hierarchy. There was another women who claimed she didn't like dark skinned people and who kept saying she didn't have big nose, big lips, and nappy hair. I have this in my own family. I have two second cousins the same age who were practically raised as sisters, one very fair skinned, one very dark skinned, both very beautiful. The treatment between the two from their grandmothers and relatives was a stark difference. The dark skinned one often would get the hand me downs of the light skinned one, she received less attention, and less praise. Maybe it is a Southern thing, but in my family, people love to point out "non-black" features. My brother was doted on for his hazel eyes and light skin, I was praised for my "good hair". I had another cousin that people loved to talk about her red hair. No one could ever just be pretty or handsome just for being pretty or handsome. I will say I have a pretty militant mother who doted on both me and my brother for other things to offset when family members would say crazy things. My mother's family is slightly fragmented as a result of my grandmother marrying a dark skinned black man. My great grandmother told her she was messing up their "pretty skin", i.e. light skin for marrying him. Paper brown tests existed in her family, and my grandfather failed. Most of my uncles and aunts did. Out of ten kids, only two could pass such a test. It is really sad that this mentality still continues in some circles.

Article on Black Women and White Men Relationships

Are BW and WM relationships starting to mainstream themselves? This article is a good indication, but then again too, this article is being released in the UK, where race relations are way different than in the US.

Why black women are doing the white thing
BY Janelle Oswald

MIXED BLESSINGS: Black women and white men are the changing face of relationships



Frustrated with the ‘shortage’ of ‘good’ black men, black women are expanding their horizons and are dating outside of their race.
Statistics show that more black women are dating white men worldwide, and black female/white male marriages have increased by fifty per cent.

Some argue that this increase in relationships between black women and white men may be attributed to educational attainment.

"Some black men will look at you a certain way. They know that you have a lot going on and that they can't play games. Sometimes it's harder to attract black guys when you have a lot going for yourself," says Renea D. Nichols-Nash, author of Coping With Interracial Dating.

Oscar-winning actress Whoopi Goldberg, who dates white men, found this to be the case. Black men, she says, have a hard time dealing with a black woman with power.

Now, rather than sitting around dreaming about the perfect black man, black women are considering the possibility that ‘Mr. Right’ could be white.

Casting aside reservations about interracial relationships – for some, due to the atrocities committed during slavery – they are beginning to look past race when choosing a potential mate.

"I'm not saying that white men are the answer to all our problems," 35-year-old Chantelle Perry says. "I'm just saying that they offer a different solution."

Many black women, who are becoming increasingly frustrated as the field of marriageable black men narrows, share Perry’s view.

Black men are nearly seven times more likely to be incarcerated than white men, and more than twice as likely to be unemployed.

Another arguable reason for black women opting for white men is social environment.

Race doesn’t matter to Paul Kennedy and Michelle Clarke. Best friends since primary school, they are now in a relationship together. Kennedy is white and Clarke is black.

”People are finding people with common interests and common perspectives and are putting race aside,” says Clarke, 26, a Middlesex University graduate who works at Barclay’s Bank.

Clarke and her friends are among the new generation of black females that are opting to date outside of their race due to their social environment.

Like Clarke, the majority of young people have friends or acquaintances of different races and nationalities, and are seen as more tolerant and open-minded than previous generations.

Unlike their parents and grandparents, today’s teens and twenty-somethings have grown up hearing the buzzwords ‘diversity,’ ‘multicultural’ and ‘inclusion’, and are used to seeing interracial friendship and romance portrayed in films and on TV – especially in soap operas and adverts.

“I don’t see colour as an issue,” states Clarke. “We have been very happy together and apart from a few isolated incidents, we have not experienced any open hostility towards our relationship.”

Admitting that at first her parents disapproved – she was told while growing up never to come home with a white man – Clarke explains that her parents have come to accept her relationship decision because she would not back down, and Kennedy has proved his commitment to her and, most importantly, her family.

“I come from a stereotypical Caribbean black family and I am the first Clarke to date a white person,” she says.

“At first my parents were dead against my relationship with Paul, but our commitment towards one another has outshined any doubts.”

Clarke, who lives with her parents, says that her three-year relationship with her present partner is no different to previous ones with black men.

“I don’t believe being with Paul is any different from any of my past relationships. Being with Paul feels so natural because we have known each other for years, and I do believe that one of the secrets to a successful relationship is friendship.”

Asked whether sex is different, Clarke says: “No! Why should it be?”

However, 25 year-old Simone Thomas from south west London found it difficult to enjoy an intimate relationship with dates of a different race from her own.

“Believe it or not I have tried to have a physical relationship with several white men, but when it came down to the bedroom action I could not see it through.”

“I know it sounds crazy saying it out loud. Trust me, I’m an educated woman, but whenever I saw their private parts I was totally put off sleeping with them.”

Asked if it had anything to do with size, Thomas responds: “No, not really. It was just the colour, and all the black men I have dated have been circumcised and the white men were not.”

Cultural differences and religious beliefs are some of the reasons why numerous black women are reluctant to date outside their race.

“Life is hard enough without having to add any unnecessary stress. I just want a man that I can relate to,” declares Charlene Clifford from north London.

“A man that will know and understand me, and vice versa. Dating a white man would just be too complicated.”

Historically within the black community, people are more used to seeing black men dating white women. Black men as a group are three times more likely to date and marry white women. But black women are now exercising their options like their brothers.

“Race is becoming less of a deal in dating. People want to explore their choices,” says Adam White, author of The Interracial Dating Book for Black Women Who Want to Date White Men and The White Man's Guide To Dating Black Women.

“As scary as this may sound, there are more black women than there are black men, which means there are a lot fewer black men available for relationships,” White adds.

“This is mainly due to early deaths, prolonged incarceration, homosexuality, unemployment and marriage to white women or other races. It is a common refrain to hear black women complain that there are ‘no good Black men’ in their social universes.

“Black women are fed up of waiting for a black Mr. Right to come along and now want to explore dating outside their racial box. Black women are now thinking ‘what’s good for the goose is good for the gander’, and like black men they are exploring their options.”

Events manager and mother of two Kerry Jones, views herself as a ‘new age black woman’, who decided to marry a white man because she felt that she could not find somebody compatible for her to date within her own race.

“Let’s be real, if you are a successful black woman you only have two choices: date outside of your race or date other successful black women. And because I’m not a lesbian, I went for the first option,” says Jones, who lives in Surrey.

The 35-year-old adds: ”I love black men. My father is black, I have dated black men all my life, and if I have a male child he will be part black, but many black men my age are just not suitable for marriage.

“Black men over the years have become less and less of value to black women like me, because while us black women have progressed on to higher levels they have stayed the same. Not all, but most.”

Married to her white husband for six years, Jones says: “A black man in my position wouldn't do it, so why should I? My husband and I will raise our mixed race boys together so hopefully he will be a worthy choice for worthy black women. Not the only choice, or ‘there's nothing better out there so I'll settle for this’ choice.

“When you are successful you want the best. The best food, clothes, places to live etc. I want the best man also.”

Angered by statements that black men are failures, Jamilla Staples from south London says: “All races have good or bad and I get really annoyed when black women rubbish black men. Yes, I’m married to a white man, but not because I look down on black men but because I fell in love.”

Staples has been married for fourteen years to her husband Sam, and together they are coming to terms with being parents of mixed race children.

“When I met Sam at work it was instant attraction for both of us. I’m not one of these women that hate on black men just because I’m with a white guy. Sam in one word is ‘great’ and both of our families have gone out of their way to make us both feel comfortable when we are around.”

Staples says that initially her parents wondered if she knew what she was doing – they sat her down and gave her a speech. But, seeing how happy she was led them to eventually accept the relationship.

“I’m still very much black and keep in touch with my blackness. I don’t need to apologise for my ethnicity because that is what Sam loves – I’m a black woman,” Staples says.

“Sam and I have two children and after the birth of each of our kids I decided to save my hair, which is part of ancient African female custom after childbirth. Keeping true to my blackness is vital because I have kids and it is important for them to know who they are.

“Of course there are some differences, but not enough for our relationship not to work. We both listen to the same music and enjoy the same food. In fact, Sam cooks better jerk chicken then I do!”

She adds: “We have gone past the stares and the looks from people in the streets, I think, because we really just look like a relaxed couple.

“In the beginning, a lot of black men used to question my relationship. But over the years more and more couples like myself have become a part of the English norm.”

Published: 28 January 2008
Issue: 1305

2008-04-23

Surprise, Surprise, Divorce



Is this really a surprise? I don't like to comment on celebrity gossip and the ilk, but was I the only one looking at Al and wondering when he was going to jump out of the closet?

Seriously. Look at him, this man was straight up gay:






He is wearing extensions in his hair. What man do you know who does this? Seriously aside from drag queens and transexuals?

Star Jones files for divorce from Al Reynolds
Three years after tying the knot in a spectacular, over-the-top affair that caused some backlash, Star Jones has decided to end her marriage to banker Al Reynolds.


The 46-year-old TV personality quietly filed divorce papers March 26 in New York Supreme Court in Manhattan. The records are sealed, syndicated entertainment show "Entertainment Tonight" reported Wednesday.

But a representative for SHADOW PR, which represents Jones, confirmed to The Associated Press that she is seeking to end the union.

In a statement to "Entertainment Tonight," Jones said: "Several years ago I made an error in judgment by inviting the media into the most intimate area of my life. A month ago I filed for divorce.

"The dissolution of a marriage is a difficult time in anyone's life that requires privacy with one's thoughts. I have committed myself to handling this situation with dignity and grace and look forward to emerging from this period as a stronger and wiser woman."

It's not the approach Jones took when she threw her uber-lavish, Park Avenue wedding to Reynolds in November 2004. She received criticism for endlessly discussing the wedding — and plugging its sponsors — as a co-host on ABC's "The View." The negative reaction to the affair, which was attended by guests ranging from Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton to Spike Lee, was cited by Barbara Walters as a reason why Jones' contract wasn't renewed by ABC's "The View" in 2006.

The former prosecutor recently hosted a talk show on truTV.

2008-04-21

Pet Peeves Of The Day


OK I have messenger on Yahoo! and google. I chat with a few people online, not many, as I am not all that popular, but some people for some reason are not repulsed by me and want to chit chat. Usually they do this on my non "siditty" account, believe it or not, I was not born with the name Siditty, shocking I know. There is a certain person on Yahoo! who feels that if I appear online I should chat with them. Sometimes my messenger is logged in, and I am NOT online. Sometimes it is because I logged into my email, so it makes it appear I am ready for chat, when in reality, I just wanted to check my email real quick and not chit chat. Do not text message me on my cell phone calling me rude because I didn't chit chat this one time! Seriously, I love chit chatting, but sometimes I don't have the time. I love to talk, Lord knows I do, hell look at all these damn blog posts, but honestly I don't feel like talking sometimes or I am just not able too, don't take it personal. DANG!!!!!!!!!!! Not to mention just call me to see what is going on, you got my cell number and my real name child!!!!

Also, let's talk about body odor. If you are stinky, personal space should increase not decrease!!!! Now the person I am talking about, would be pissed if I looked at them crazy and said they stink to high hell, but since I am silent, they now feel they need to be all up on me. Deodorant is a great thing, I know it is getting a bad wrap, but they got the organic stuff now sans aluminum that is great for you. That and a shower you should be good to go.

Meeting David Wilson

I was watching MSNBC, and I was able to watch part of Meeting David Wilson. I caught the tail end of it, and was fortunate to catch the round table discussion afterwards.

This guy did a documentary in which he met a descendant of his family's slave master. Incidentally they have the same name, David Wilson.

Here is the trailer:



Here is a story from ABC News interviewing the film maker:



Another one from NBC:



The documentary was great, the round table discussion was awesome as well.



In the round table, there were some great discussions. I was a bit irked by Tom Joyner though. He was talking about wanting an apology and wanted to point out the black David Wilson did not ask the white David Wilson for one. The thing is apologies have been made about slavery, but nothing has been done to address the ongoing issues of slavery which plague the black community today. To me words are empty, there is only so much talk before we need to take into account action. Tim Wise was awesome as all ways. I love reading his books. He is another white man crush I have. Even Michael Eric Dyson made some great points, and I don't always agree with what he says. I will note that I had a soft place in my heart for Kevin Powell (I will always remember Real World Season 1, when folks weren't completely crazy and slutty), even though he went through the "black men have it tough" while forgetting about black women, he does have some awesome books worth reading as well, most notably, "Who's Gonna Take the Weight?: Manhood, Race, and Power in America."

Also note they did a modern day "doll test", which unfortunately shows how the black community has advanced in terms of how we perceive ourselves, in particular our children. People say color doesn't matter and colorism does not exist, you need to watch these kids and tell me it doesn't.





Here is an article from MSNBC:

‘Not the descendants of victims but victors’
Film traces one man’s journey to track down his family’s past in slavery

MSNBC
updated 9:01 a.m. CT, Fri., April. 11, 2008
It has been 40 years since the assassination of the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr., but only now, with the emergence of an African-American candidate with a real chance of winning the presidency, has race finally pushed itself into the heart of America’s civic conversation.

“In some ways we’ve never talked more about race in America,” Mark Whitaker, senior vice president of NBC News, said in a commentary he wrote as part of the network’s initiative with msnbc.com’s Gut Check America series examining race relations in the United States.

And yet, he lamented, “there has been virtually no debate in this campaign about how to tackle the crisis of inner-city black men, millions of whom are locked in a vicious cycle of criminality and incarceration.”

NBC will try to address that lack of debate Friday night, April 11, when it hosts a 90-minute discussion of racial issues at Howard University in Washington. The event, to be moderated by Brian Williams, anchor of “NBC Nightly News,” will air on MSNBC at 10:30 p.m. ET and will streamed live on msnbc.com. It will include radio talk show host Tom Joyner; author and Georgetown University professor Michael Eric Dyson; Malaak Compton-Rock, an entrepreneur and wife of comedian Chris Rock; and the Rev. DeForest Soaries, a prominent Republican activist.

Also on the panel will be David A. Wilson, whose intensely personal look at the ties of two American families — one black, one white — will air at 9 p.m. ET.

“Meeting David Wilson” tracks Wilson’s journey to North Carolina to meet David B. Wilson, a descendant of the white Southern family that owned his ancestors during the slavery era.

Wilson, now 30, a veteran of ABC, CBS and Fox News, said it was “about creating a dialogue for America as a whole.”

“What you have in the two of us is the story of two races and two generations honestly talking about the dark cloud of slavery and its continuing impact on our families and our lives even today,” he said

Meeting David Wilson
For Wilson, the journey was eye-opening. Working with Nancy Carter Moore, a genealogical researcher, he learned that his family had been enslaved for three generations on vast plantations across North Carolina and Virginia belonging to the wealthy Wilson family.

To his surprise, Wilson learned that the family still lived in the same big house in Caswell County, N.C. The owner’s name, according to the county clerk’s office: David Wilson.

In “Meeting David Wilson,” the filmmaker recounts his first contact with his namesake:

“I called there, and I eventually spoke with him, and I said: ‘Hello, Mr. David Wilson?’ And he said: ‘Yes?’ And I said, ‘Well, my name is David Wilson, and I believe your family once owned mine.’

“He paused for a second and said: ‘Well, that could be.’

“It was the most uncomfortable feeling I’ve ever had.”

Accompanied by his director and cameraman, Daniel Woolsey, David A. Wilson, the young, black New York journalist — set out to meet David B. Wilson — the white son of 1940s and ’50s Southern segregation and owner of a nationally known barbecue joint that opened in 1949.

‘Dialogue a lot of people dread having’
“I think he’s going to be a tobacco-chewing, straw-eatin’, rifle-totin’, rockin’ chair-sittin’, lemonade-drinkin’ redneck,” Wilson, half-joking, said as he and Woolsey hit the road from New York.

What they found was quite different.

“I have so much respect for him because here you have a man who’s just this common guy, yet he’s been put in a situation, and he’s welcomed the situation where he’s been put in the middle of this dialogue that a lot of people dread having,” Wilson said.

“David and I, in our conversations, don’t address all the issues regarding race. We don’t find all the answers. What I think we do is set the example that it is possible to to talk about race in a way in which we can all come together. We can focus on our future together, as opposed to our divided past.”

The Wilsons agreed on some things and disagreed on others, but without rancor or apprehension. “After spending hours with David, something happened that I really didn’t anticipate,” David A. Wilson says in the film. “I began to see less and less of a descendant of my family’s former slave owner and more and more of a decent and kind-hearted human being.”

So they put together a reunion of both families.

“This was amazing,” Wilson said. “Here we stood, not in the shadow of the ignorance that dominated our family’s history, but together as newfound friends and family.”

That experience encouraged Wilson to do something no one in his family had done before: return to his ancestral homeland in Ghana. There, he visited the centuries-old forts where future slaves were held, an experience that helped him recognize “how strong we are. Look what we’ve been through. Look what we had to go through.”

The journey led him to this realization:

“We have all these sorts of problems: gang violence, imprisonment. If we can understand our ancestors and understand the strength that they had, then we should realize by extension that we have that same strength — that we’re not the descendants of victims but victors. ...

“They overcame obstacles for anyone else who wanted to take part in the American dream.”

2008-04-20

My Ipod Addiction


I have a slight issue. I have autistic characteristics just like my brother. I have a tendency to fixate on things. For most of my life, this has been music and books. I was reminded of my obsession by watching the Henry Rollins video, I posted the other day, and I do/did have the whole "High Fidelity" list syndrome. I have been completely turned off by cute guys with horrible taste in music. I have written off those who don't read as ignorant or dumb. I know that is a stupid thing to do, but I did it, and to some extent I still do. I have to say "High Fidelity" is still one of my favorite movies/books, not just because the movie has my crush John Cusack, but because I relate to that. I remember in high school hanging out at Bill's Records and Tapes here in Dallas, going to live shows, or going to Deep Ellum and hanging out outside the club I was too young to go into, just to listen to music. Of course I turned my back on Deep Ellum in the mid 1990's as it turned into a cool place for frat boys into Pearl Jam to hang out, but I as per usual digress.

I am currently trying to add my whole entire music collection to my ipod, I have been doing this for TWO YEARS. I only have about 60% of my music on my ipod, and I am at 4,523 songs as of today. I think most people might think that to be obsessive, but I can't help it, I can also say about once a week I buy a new "album" via itunes. I am obsessive with new music as well, as I can't just listen to one song, I lay down, and listen to a whole album in it's entirety to determine if I like it or not. I also have a tendency to own like a crap load of songs that get put into commercials and then my friends like it and think it is cool when it is in a commercial, but if they hear the song before the commercial they think it is stinky. UUugggghhhh I hate that. I find that the trend of releasing singles is what is killing the music industry. They put out crap albums with one or two songs they focus to sell the whole product and no one wants to buy a whole cd anymore because of it. They focus on singles and pumping out crappy ass artists instead of focusing on the music. That is why I still have a top 100 list of songs.

In terms of books, I have slowed down on buying, but I love the library, I got a card to all the public libraries in the Dallas area. I once looked at my mother in law crazy because she thought only poor people went to the library, and that it cost money to "rent" books. I had to bite my tongue and check myself with her. Even, my husband doesn't understand my need to go to the library. He thinks it is for poor folks as well. I just look at him crazy and make him mad because I have the "I'm smarter than you" look on my face, even though in reality, my husband is way smarter than I ever will be. I can spend hours in a library. I love it there so much, they probably think I am a homeless person hanging out there to keep me from the elements outside. I don't care, I gotta find books, I gotta read. To tie my obsessions together, I listen to my ipod while I read. Sad isn't it?


In the end though, I ended up with a guy who hates to read, unless it is programming book, and whose musical tastes tend not to mesh with mine at all. So I have not relinquished my list obsession, I just tend to keep my superiority complex to myself a bit more. I have learned or tried to be more open to various points of view, even though I am always right, and what I like rules, and what you like drools.

2008-04-19

Saturday Night Boredom

I don't know what it is about this man, but I would throw my panties on stage for this man. OK, no I wouldn't, that is skank, but I had a hard core crush on him in 3rd grade.

Purple Rain was an awesome movie, ok the soundtrack kicked ass, but the acting was horrible:



Who didn't love Morris Day and Jerome:



You guys know you loved this song.



I know for sure you loved Jungle Love



I know you guys all loved Vanity Apollonia 6:

2008-04-18

Natural Hair and IR Relationships


I stole the pic from Yan.


I went over to one of my favorite natural hair care boards, and noticed a conversation about WM reactions to natural hair. Being that I am obviously in IR, this conversation was interesting to me. Apparently several of the women on the site are open to IR dating, either currently in IR or have dated IR in the past. Someone mentioned that it seems many naturals are perceived as pro-black and anti-IR. I actually get that a lot from people of all races, but looking at the message board response, another noticed that that doesn't seem to be the case. She tried to figure out the reasoning for so many naturals that were open to IR. One made a great point:

"Hmm.. you know I've been thinking about this recently and I'm not sure if there's a direct correlation between napptural hair and the love/acceptance of non-black men. I think it's more likely that many black women who go natural are more comfortable with detouring away from societal norms. It is not a far reach to think that a black woman who will ignore cultural beauty standards in what she does with her hair might take a similarly independent attitude towards interracial relationships, despite cultural pressure to stay with "her own"."


I feel this person hit the nail right on the head. To go natural, in particular in the black community, is still somewhat taboo. You get the comments asking when are you going to do your hair, when will you get a relaxer, why are you so lazy and just letting your hair doing "whatever". I know when I first went natural nine years ago, it was a pretty big deal. My parents freaked, my mother told me, my husband (boyfriend at the time) would leave me walking around with natural hair, and my father kept telling me my head looked horrible and I looked like a "witch", he then told me I must think I was white to think I could just wash my hair and be done with it I got cards and suggestions for beauty salons left and right. The "your hair is so pretty, a good relaxer and it will be gorgeous" comments. I still rock a wash and go and have no regrets.

My husband is the one who convinced me to go natural after he saw me put my own relaxer in my head, yeah I was crazy. I used a child's relaxer because I am "tender headed", perms/relaxers burn my head, and I always no matter if professionally done or at home get chemical burns from perms/relaxers. He saw the burns and smelled the relaxer, thinking it was the most horrible smell ever, and it is true, they don't smell very pleasant, he asked me why I would put that stuff in my hair. I thought about it and thought he was right, and nine years later relaxer free. Now hotcomb or ceramic hot iron free is a different story, but for the most part 99.98% of the time I am au natural.

I feel that many BW who decide to go natural are expressing independence because it is a big deal for a black woman to go natural, the reactions you get aren't always positive,and even in the work place it is still taboo in some offices to wear your hair natural. I know many natural heads who break out the relaxer when it is time to interview for fear of rejection. I've done it before. With that being said, I think many of us are open because once you go against the grain in one aspect of your life, it isn't such a big deal in other parts. You are used to dealing with crap from others, so you don't have as many hang ups, causing you to be more open to not just dating, but everything. It is like you are part of a counter culture.

I do want to add, I am NOT trying to start a hair war. Relaxed hair is pretty too, and I don't dislike those who wear their hair relaxed.

I'VE ALWAYS LOVED HIM, I STILL DO



He is so damn sexy, and he was in Black Flag. This is the perfect guy :)

2008-04-17

Why do I like white guys?


I was having a conversation in another blog about my experiences growing up, as I have said many times before I grew up in a predominantly white area. I attribute that to my reason I have a preference of white men. I attributed my husband's preference for non white women for the same reason. He went to predominantly black and hispanic middle and high schools. I always thought since most people date or start to date and form relationships with the opposite sex in middle school and high school, my attraction was obviously sealed at that point in life. But come to think of it, I always had an attraction to white guys, even before then, of course at again I have always been around white people. I was chit chatting with someone at another blog and he explained to me that he never grew up around black people, there weren't that many where he lived, and he has an obvious attraction to black women, he has a blog about it. So I am really asking myself why do I like or have a strong preference for white guys?

What are the turn on of white guys vs. black men for me? Not that there aren't some hot black men, there are, I drool when I see Tyson Beckford and Michael Jai White. Orlando Jones and Gary Dourdan work well for me as well, but this isn't the black man appreciation post, so as per usual, I digress.


I guess I will list out my preferences:

1) Call it a fetish, but I love the skin contrast, I have obviously very dark features, dark brown eyes, curly black hair, dark skin, and white guys on average do not. It is a definite turn on to notice the stark difference.

2) Again a fetish thing, I guess it is also the hair, black guys usually keep the hair a close fade, or sometimes they do bald, I like running my fingers through the hair. I just like hair. Not that bald guys aren't awesome either, I met my husband bald, but I definitely prefer him with hair :)

3) I think there is a cultural differences that mesh better with me as well. Typically speaking white guys, not in all cases, trust me I know, tend to be a bit more reserved in their approach to you than black guys. I guess it is because they like to get a feel for you to see if you are even open to dating a WM, where as BM tend to be a bit more direct and at times, as it is assumed that if you are of the same race you are open to dating people of your own race, which is the case the majority of the time. Sometimes the approach can be too strong. Also with the small number of college educated black men out there, I found many of them to be at an advantage, as most black women still prefer black men, and they use that to their advantage.

4) Not that this a valid reasoning, but I find I have more in common with white guys vs. black guys. My husband and I are complete opposites, but I tend to listen to music and watch movies that fall outside the realm of the stereotypical "black music" and "black movies". Of course my music and movie preferences fall outside the realm of most people, regardless of race, am a weirdo. Even though I am big into music and movies, I enjoy going to live shows of all types and going to art shows, and doing the opera, again most people don't like doing that, including my husband and friends, which is why I am again labeled a weirdo. I always assumed due to the things I like, it seems I was around white guys way more than black guys do to my hobbies.

5) Let me go back to being a fetishist, but I have a weakness for green or blue eyes. I get caught up in eyes pretty easily. My husband has the coolest eyes. I have actually bought clothes for him based upon how they would make his eyes look. I know that is wrong, but it is very true.

Like I said, I can appreciate all races of men, but I just tend to have a preference for white men, and who am I to question why I really have that preference.

2008-04-15

What Queer As Folk Has Taught Me About Men



So since yesterday morning, I have been without internet, which is my main source of entertainment. Blogs, youtube, satellite radio access, tv shows all on my laptop. While I was panicking because I felt so disconnected from the world, I decided a marathon of Queer As Folk from Netflix would be a great way to pass the time. Forget working out, cleaning, or things that might be of importance. I need to know about and get wrapped up in the lives of Brian, Justin, Emmett, Michael, and Ted.

I am late to this show. I only watch three or four shows on a regular basis, and I am usually lost on everything else. I watch Lost, The Office, and Law and Order SVU, not Criminal Intent, or just plain old Law and Order, SVU only. Due to the internet I have managed to sneak in The Riches, which is a show I just found out about like two weeks ago.

Queer as Folk even though an obviously gay themed show has taught me a lot about men in general.

What Queer As Folk Has Taught Me About Men:

1) Men are horny and think about sex ALL the time. I think about sex a lot, but obviously not as often as men do, and I thought I was a sex fiend at one point (that is a whole blog entry within itself)
2) Men like pretty things, pretty things make them think of sex
3)Ultimately men just want sex
4) Intelligence and personality are secondary to sex. You can be the nicest person and have everything in common with a guy, but if you aren't pretty enough, he will knock you down and step on you for the hot person scantily clad with nothing to say and no chemistry. All the chemistry they need is in that person's body.
5) Men are always on the prowl for something better than what they have...if they think they can get it, otherwise they will stay with you, but really want someone else, as they are tired of you.
6) Sex and love are two completely different things to men. You can love someone and have an attachment to them, but you can have sex with another and it is all good.
7) Some straight men are so horny for sex they will take any and everything, including sexual gratification from gay men (ok this is not always the case, but dang on Queer As Folk, it happens a lot)

I will say this show is awesome, I am just like 8 years too late!!!!

2008-04-11

Ain't No Party Like A Friday Night Party-Fight Scenes

OK So it i Friday night, and you know my ass is at home, so I am right now looking at kill bill, one of my favorite movies and had to share the infamous fight scene. I wanted to do the scene with Beatrix Kiddo and Elle Driver, but that was just too gross, so I did the run of the mill Crazy 88's fight, which is awesome and shout out to RZA on the awesome soundtrack.



This is a pretty fight scene, be patient, and if you haven't seen House of Flying Daggers, rent it!!!!



This is a classic fight scene from The Chinese Connection. R.I.P. Bruce



Classic Indiana Jones:



This movie was awesome due to the bad acting and the Motown Soundtrack. What happened to Taimak?



This is one of the best endings ever to a movie. OK This movie is one of the best ever, the cheesy dialogue and one liners can't be beat. Evil Dead III aka Army of Darkness:





This movie totally sucked, but I felt the need to add this clip. I so love his last few lines in this movie.



Yeah I forgot the Matrix, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, the Karate Kid, and for the sake of my husband, Optimus Prime vs. Megatron from the original Transformers, the cartoon movie, not the live action. Maybe another time :)

I Have A Man, So I Don't Want You To Have One?

Does that comment make any sense to you? If I have a man, why would I be concerned whether or not you have a man? This accusation has been thrown at me more times than I can count by some women. They are upset I don't like or enjoy black male bashing. I don't know maybe it is because my father, who I adore is a black man, or maybe because I have two brothers who are black men. Maybe because one day I might have a son, and he will be perceived as a black man, and it would be crappy to hold resentment towards him due to SOME trifling ass black men who exist.

My whole hate mongering is targeted towards those angry that I am, and will defend black men when people lump them together and stereotype them. Hell, I do that when people do that for other races, I even call myself out on it. I call out black men who talk negatively about black women, but on my blog, as well as many IR blogs that deal with BW and WM there isn't much of a black male presence on those blogs. If some black men choose to bash black women, it isn't acceptable and you should call those folks out when you do see it happen. Stereotyping is bad, it shouldn't be accepted, and it doesn't really help anyone's cause to be angry and upset at a whole group of men, especially if you are in the process of a relationship.

Me being angry with black men or white women will not help my relationship with my white husband, if I had come to him when we started dating, talking about how horrible black men are, and complaining incessantly about the evils of white women, I am sure he would have run for the hills. I should like him for him, not because of his whiteness. Coming off as bitter and angry isn't an endearing trait for men or women. Dating someone as a way to get back at someone else isn't a healthy way to start a relationship. Yes, I am attracted to white men, but I am not just going to take any white man. If a white man approaches me in a vulgar manner, I am not going to throw my panties off and get on my back for his pleasure. I don't want to be referred to as sexual chocolate or round n brown booty by men I don't know. If that is the only way I can get a white man, I don't think I would want one.

I really don't understand why people don't comprehend this? I am not trying to keep other black women from having a white man. If that is what you want, go for it. But evaluate yourself, I know many other bloggers have said this, in particular Roslyn, before you try to enter into a relationship, you need to look at yourself to see what you can do to ensure a positive relationship, and if in your mind bashing a black man or ANY MAN is going to help you do this, I hate to say it, but whatever relationship you enter into, will fail. Focus on your positives, and avoid your past mistakes. If you have a tendency to date unemployed men, with multiple children, and a propensity to cheat, you need to sit back and ask yourself why you were attracted to that? If that is the type of men that approaches you over and over again, remove yourself from the situation. Try meeting men elsewhere, shoot down those men, go to a library, a church, a restaurant, bookstore, and try your luck there. For some reason this strategy has been met with resistance.

Is self reflection bad? I can honestly say before I was with my husband I decided I was no longer going to date guys. I was dating some losers, and yes they were white, but I needed to figure out what the hell I was doing, and my epiphany came when I realized I was chasing pretty boys. I was so enamored with their good looks, they could have been complete assholes and I would bend over backwards for them. So I decided I would take things slow and be more open to guys I might not normally be attracted to, not ugly guys, I have my limits, but guys who might not dress how I like guys to dress, guys with different interests than me, guys who might not be so forward in expressing their attraction. Guys that were outside the ideal. Guys with six packs,wearing the latest and greatest are cute, but if they have nothing else going on, I can't work with them. I chose that for myself, maybe you like boys with six packs and are willing to compromise on personality, I decided I wanted personality more than a six pack, and I realized six packs don't always last forever, and that a good man is a good man.

People ask me if black men are so great, why aren't you with one? I am not with one because I love my husband, and my husband loves me. I am attracted to white guys for the most part, and those are the majority of men that have approached me in the past. I don't have to hate black men to love white men.

In terms of uplifting black woman, as it has been said I am here to tear down and belittle black women who want to date IR, I am all for uplifting black women and for black women dating IR, hello I dated and married IR, but let's be honest, if you talk crazy, I am going to call you out. That is how I am wired, ask my husband, he gets it too. I will openly say black women get the raw end of the deal in the black community, because we are trying to right the wrongs of black men from the past, we have disregarded black women for the most part, and we tend to forget that black women were wronged as well. We tolerate too much BS. We can be raped, murdered, molested, and people (black or any race) don't tend to care. But referring to black women as Mammy's, referring to overweight black women as a hinderance to IR, being concerned about how black women are presented on a blog, or lying on black women who don't agree with your stance, will not help uplift black women. Many who claim to do this, they aren't uplifting black women, they are bashing them, and many of these women are so used to being bashed, they don't even see it. Things were made clear to me, when I went to a blog and was bashed and lied upon and all those black women wanting to uplift could do nothing, but join in on the bashing and laughing. That or seeing a woman get attacked for defending white women because some of her best friends were white women and being told they would be scared to have her on their side if a "race war" ever came up. Black women empowerment at it's best.

2008-04-10

Computer Nerd Love

Due to severe weather here in our area, (we had some tornadoes, high wind, and thunderstorms last night), my husband worked from home, since the power was out at his office. Today incidentally, his parts for his brand new computer came, and he took an extended lunch to ooohhhh and aaahhh at the parts. Now he is assembling said computer parts into a computer ON MY DINING ROOM TABLE. If there is so much as a scratch on that dining room table. THERE WILL BE A BEAT DOWN.

This is me beating the hell out of my husband if he scratches my dining room table:




He better be careful.

2008-04-09

I HOPE HE WAS FIRED FOR OTHER REASONS AND HIS MARRIAGE HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH HIS FIRING

Who am I kidding? That very well could be the case. I will openly admit I was scared to death to have my husband put a picture of me and him on his desk at his job he was working at the time. The office was very conservative and very white. There were no blacks in his office with professional positions. They all worked clerical or customer service. That was one of the first things he noticed when he took the job. He kept wondering, were they not able to find skilled, educated black people in a major metropolitan area? The company he worked for wasn't small either, it was a very big global media company at the time (the division he worked was later sold off to another company). Thankfully he no longer works there, and I knew his boss and co-workers before he worked at his current job, and know they had no issue with his marriage. They might have an issue with him wearing Iron Maiden t-shirts to work though on days there are no clients to see :)

If the accusations are true against the College VP, it goes to prove my point, that racist folks don't see "special" black folks or black women. This man's wife does not fit the type that is considered a "Mammy", but the "Aunt Jemima" talked flowed easily from his mouth (supposedly).

I found this story over at Ebony Women and Ivory Men.


JURY SHOULD HEAR COACH'S CLAIMS HE WAS FIRED FOR INTERRACIAL MARRIAGE: COURT

BY THOMAS ZAMBITO
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER

Wednesday, April 2nd 2008, 4:00 AM
Ex-Iona coach Craig Holcomb says he was axed over interracial marriage to Pamela Gauthier. Theodorakis/News


A white former Iona College hoops coach scored big Tuesday in his two-year battle to prove he was fired because his wife is black.

The 2nd Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals in Manhattan said a jury should hear Craig Holcomb's claims that top-ranking officials at the Westchester school allowed racists to oust him from his job as top assistant to axed Iona basketball coach Jeff Ruland.

The court said a lower-court judge was wrong to toss out Holcomb's discrimination claim and sent the case back to trial.

In a first-of-its-kind decision, the court ruled that even though Holcomb is white, he still can make a claim that he was discriminated against because of his association with a black woman.

Holcomb accused Iona Vice President and former Athletic Director Richard Petriccione of repeatedly using the N-word to refer to black players and of calling a Nigerian employee a "jungle bunny."

In 2000, Holcomb says, he asked Petriccione if he'd received the invitation for his wedding to Pamela Gauthier, an African-American. According to Holcomb, Petriccione responded: "You're really going to marry that Aunt Jemima? You really are a n----r lover."


Petriccione also drew a racially tinged comparison between his players and those at rival Fordham, Holcomb said.

"Everybody at Fordham thinks they have these good black kids and Iona has n-----s," Petriccione said, according to Holcomb's complaint.

Petriccione has denied making the remarks.


School officials say they were "extremely perplexed" by the court's decision and claim that Holcomb was fired for poor performance.

"Diversity is one of the tenets upon which Iona's foundation and history is built," the school said in a statement. "The college is firm in its resolve to vigorously defend itself in this case."

Holcomb was fired in 2004 after refusing to resign and now teaches physical education at a Westchester high school.

"He's very happy to have his chance to have his day in court so that he can let the truth be told," said Holcomb's lawyer Jeffrey Udell.

tzambito@nydailynews.com

Another source with some additional information:

COURT: DISCRIMINATION LAW COVER WHITES WHO MARRY BLACKS


By Kenneth J. St. Onge
April 3, 2008

Anti-discrimination laws extend workplace protections to employees who have personal relationships with those of another race, a federal court in New York has ruled.

In a first of its kind decision, a three-judge panel of the Second Circuit Court of Appeals has ruled that lower federal courts were wrong in ruling that a white basketball coach fired from Iona College was not discriminated against because of his marriage to a black woman.

Former assistant coach Craig Holcomb, who was fired from the New Rochelle, N.Y. college in 2004, alleged in a lawsuit that the school fired him because he was married to a black woman.

He was one of two assistant coaches – the other of whom was black – fired by the school. At the time he was fired, Holcomb was an assistant to Jeff Ruland, a white former NBA All Star and Iona Alumnus whose long-time girlfriend was a black woman and friend of Holcomb's wife.

In court papers, Holcomb showed evidence that an athletic director and a vice president at the school – two of the five officials responsible for firing him – used racial epithets and took other discriminatory actions against African-Americans.

Of central concern in the case was decision to ban Holcomb's wife, Ruland's girlfriend and high school recruits – most of whom were black – from alumni booster parties. Holcomb contended the move was part of a pattern of discrimination by school officials, one which ultimately cost him his job.

The school, however, contended that the firing of Holcomb and another assistant was due to their job performance. It also said that it had wanted to fire Ruland – the highest-paid employee of the school – but felt it would be too costly given his contract.


As far as the high school recruits who were barred from booster events, Iona officials said it was in response to its reading of NCAA rules that it claimed prevent colleges from allowing the practice.

The court agreed with Holcomb that "a reasonable jury could determine that Holcomb was fired in part because he was married to a black woman."

It remanded the case to one of two lower courts which had previously ruled in favor of Iona.

2008-04-08

Education=Wedding?


I always thought it was the opposite. I have heard many times that a woman obtaining an advanced degree is less likely to get a man, especially one with less of an education than herself.

Why also are marriage rates declining? Do people not want to be married anymore?



Smarter women marry, Australian research shows

Mon Apr 7, 3:04 AM ET

Women with a university degree are more likely to marry than their less-educated sisters, according to Australian research released Monday that reverses long-held views about bookish females.

The Monash University report, based on analysis of data from the 2006 national census, suggests that wedlock was increasingly becoming the province of the well-educated and wealthy.

"There's something new going on, particularly among women," said researcher Genevieve Heard of the university's Centre for Population and Urban Research.

"It's long been assumed that more educated women are less traditional and more financially independent and are therefore less likely to need to or want to marry. And indeed, this assumption has been borne out in the data for a long time," she told the Australian Broadcasting Corporation.

"But now, in the 2006 data, we can see that in fact the pattern has reversed so that women with post-school qualifications, especially those with degrees, are now in fact more likely to be married than their counterparts with less education."

The research found that while the marriage rate was falling overall, for women aged over 30 it was declining rapidly for those with only a high school education.

The census data on women aged 30 to 34 revealed that in 1996, 64 percent of women with a bachelor degree or higher were married, slightly less than the 65 percent of women in the same age group who did no extra study after school.

But the group more likely to be married had reversed within the decade; with 61 percent of women aged 30 to 34 with degrees or higher married by 2006, compared with 53 percent of women in the same age group with no post-school qualifications.

In her report, Heard said it was too simplistic to say that the fading appeal of marriage in an era when de facto relationships were widely accepted was the only reason for the numbers.

"Increasingly, married Australians are concentrated among those with higher earning potential," she wrote.

2008-04-06

Interesting Ad-Racism or Clever Marketing?



This is old, but since I was talking about blonde white women in the media in relation to black woman, I decided to pull up this old ad for the roll out of the White Sony PSP. Is it racist? Or clever marketing. I will post all the pics I could find, to show you the ad campaign in as much of it's entirely as I am possibly able to.

Note this ad was a European Ad, never released in America. How well do you think this ad would go over in America?

The billboard ad:



The web campaign:



Namaste-I Love Everyone!!!!!!



OK I have put my books down. I have let go the anger. I have put away the Public Enemy CDs. I tore up my membership form to the New Black Panther Party (as if I was ever that stupid). I have gotten control of my racism. I realize not all white people are alike, and that although race relations in America suck, it is an improvement. Not all white men are scared to mess up their racial make up or dilute their namesake with dark blood, obviously not, I am married to a man who is the last to carry his last name in his family. If we have a child our biracial baby will still carry the name, and they still begging us to have kids.

I realize that there are people out there like Nathaniel Smith, challenging youth in the classroom and adults to address racism.

White people aren't the enemy. They aren't evil, and they are not all going to make assumptions of me based upon my race or gender.

I had to get a grip and see the bigger picture, and don't allow frustration to make me a hateful, bitter person.

SEXUAL CHOCOLATE AND JHERI CURLS



I swiped this from What Would Thembi Do?

I know people still trying to wear this:


Stoney Jackson hairdo. Usually this hairdo can be found on 50 something year old men who still hang out at the club chasing after 20 somethings and rolling in a 1980s Lincoln.





Also curious about who thought it would be a good idea to have a hairdo in which you slightly relaxed the hair and then kept said hair doused in flammable chemicals, ruining pillowcases, clothing, and walls behind couches everywhere?