Just Because The Magnetic Fields Are Awesome

Good to see the guy from My Best Friend's A Vampire is working.


Is It Wrong I Am Jealous

Boy can dance, and he has a body that can pull off that outfit? Yeah I am a bit jealous.

Look at him booty pop!!!!! I can't even do that and I gotta lotta booty!!!!


Why I Can't Be A Republican

Seriously....he didn't know this would find it's way to the media? Why is it when there is an attack on Barack, it always seems to be geared towards his race, after all, he is half white, why not make fun of his white side, if no harm intended? Also, does CNN think folks are too lazy to read that they must bullet point an article that takes 15 seconds to read?

RNC chairman candidate defends 'Barack the Magic Negro' song

Story Highlights
Chip Saltsman sent out the CD to committee members for Christmas
Saltsman: "I think most people recognize political satire when they see it"
Song to tune of "Puff the Magic Dragon" first played on Rush Limbaugh's show
Saltsman said song is satire of an Los Angeles Times article
(CNN) -- A candidate for the Republican National Committee chairmanship said Friday the CD he sent committee members for Christmas -- which included a song titled "Barack the Magic Negro" -- was clearly intended as a joke.

"I think most people recognize political satire when they see it," Tennessee Republican Chip Saltsman told CNN. "I think RNC members understand that."

The song, set to the tune of "Puff the Magic Dragon," was first played on conservative political commentator Rush Limbaugh's radio show in 2007.

Its title was drawn from a Los Angeles Times column about President-elect Barack Obama's appeal to those who feel guilty about the nation's history of mistreatment of African-Americans. Saltsman said the song, penned by longtime friend Paul Shanklin, should be easily recognized as satire directed at the Times.

The CD sent to RNC members, first reported by The Hill on Friday, is titled "We Hate the USA" and also includes songs referencing former presidential candidate John Edwards and the Rev. Jeremiah Wright, among other targets.

According to The Hill, other song titles, some of which were in bold font, were: "John Edwards' Poverty Tour," "Wright place, wrong pastor," "Love Client #9," "Ivory and Ebony" and "The Star Spanglish banner."

Saltsman was national campaign manager for former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee's presidential bid in 2007 and 2008. Before that, he held a variety of posts, including a number of positions under former Sen. Bill Frist of Tennessee.

The Santa Delusion

OK My husband and I are a little bit less than religious, but I have to admit I LOVE Christmas. I like spending time with my family, I like eating, I like getting gifts. I love the concept of Santa Claus. My husband thinks Santa Claus is a horrible example for kids, as it teaches them it is ok to lie. He sees nothing wrong with the kids knowing the parents did all the shopping and gift wrapping. I think the concept of lying to children is quaint and a tradition. I also plan to have our children Easter Egg hunt and eat the ears of chocolate bunnies. They like me will have no idea that Easter really isn't about Cadbury creme eggs. Is it cruel to tell kids about Santa? I don't know, but I do know I am justifying lying to my kids for my sheer enjoyment. Maybe I am not meant to have kids.

Racism In Brazil

I often discuss race relations in America, and I on occasion I get comments from people who call America racist, but most other countries are considered more racially harmonious. I often hear this about South America. Is there really anywhere in the world that is racially harmonious.


Happy Chrismahanukwanzakah!!!!!!!!!!

Merry Christmas Baby

I get down, I get down, I get down all the way. Hanukkah pimp! Hanukkah pimp!

Christmas At The Zoo

Space Christmas

Dan The Automator + Jingle Bells + Dean Martin = Pure Genius

Gap + Flo Rida+ Jingle Bells = Blasphemy


How does this black girl look better than I do?

I found this on Yahoo! Answers:

How does this black girl look better than I do?

I am so angry-my ex picked this girl over me and I dont know why. She has nothing to offer him and I do. I got the better job and she is still working on her masters.

What does he see in her? She dosent look better than me

Im the one in the black suit

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that skank says she is part Korean but I think she is lying
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And my ex has the nerve enough to brag about her thats why Im irritated
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He was bragging to my sister and said she was pretty when in fact I think she is butt ugly. And she isnt part Asian she cant even give me her "Korean" name anyways because Im sure it dosent exist

This brings back flashbacks of college when in a group of friends, if I wasn't the one left out when it came to the guys, the inevitable shock and horror of the odd girl out thinking that even me, with my ugly blackness was getting a guy, and they weren't. I hate that my blackness is supposed to be a negative, and how dare a man of any race prefer me over the white, hispanic, or asian woman.


Blackface and Culture Club

How did I not notice or remember this Culture Club video? We must have gotten a different version in the US. I don't think we could have gotten away with blackface in the 1980s:

Duran Duran setting race relations right or setting race relations back, depending upon how you look at the video:


Black Female Sexuality

Black women seem to be some of the most sexual repressed women. We tend to look down on doing things considered sexy, and it seems that many times our goals is to be as asexual as possible.

Talking about sex is a bad thing. Wearing "revealing" clothing is considered a bad thing. Having sex outside the missionary position is considered whorish.

We tend to look at things in black and white, instead of grey. You can't be smart, well adjusted, and celebrate your sexuality. It seems to be a conflict of interest for many.

I guess I attribute black female repression to two things; religion and stereotypes.

Religion plays a big part in the black community. We are supposed to wait until marriage. Sex is for procreation, not recreation. To some sex is for the sole purpose of the man, as women are thought to not enjoy sex. Anything outside this norm is somewhat shunned. We are scared to be viewed as whores, which leads me to stereotypes.

Black women have a complex history of stereotypes when it comes to sexuality. We are on hand, mammies, non sexual women whose sole purpose is to care for others or mannish, as we are considered the polar opposite of feminine. On the other hand we are sex obsessed Jezebels, willing and able to have sex with any and everyone. We don't seem to have an issue with being considered asexual as that is a safe stereotype, but to display any trace of sexuality is turned into a negative. The percentage of black women who actually booty shake, I am assuming is very small and not the norm, but of the women who do partake in booty shaking we have cast the blame for the ills and stereotypes of black women, stereotypes that have existed for centuries prior to hip hop and strip clubs. We also need to look at how many times we assume "freaky stuff" is done by white people. We like to think they are sexually depraved. The stereotype of white women who dated black men was they were willing to do any and everything that black women wouldn't do.

I in this post am not suggesting that we should all go out and purchase tube tops and miniskirts, but at the same time, I don't think that we should hide our sexuality for fear of fulfilling a stereotype, or that we should downplay one aspect of ourselves to play up another. Intelligence is not determined by what we wear, and we can be multi-faceted and be both sexy and intelligent.


The Concept of Being White

I saw this video about a book by Barbara Delinsky titled "Family Tree". The book is about a white couple who give birth to a child that has obvious black ancestry, tanned skin, curly hair, etc. The husband apparently knows his family tree very well, but the wife does not, to the point she even doesn't who her father is. The book is supposedly about the struggles the couple faces because they have this child and the shame and embarrassment it causes.

I have heard many times on this blog and others that white men want children who look like them, and they fear if they have children with black women, this won't happen. They don't seem to have this hang up with hispanic or asian women, as they are under the belief that they are closer to white, therefore being better options as mates. I can't buy that belief as I believe I can tell and identify eurasian or hispanic/white people the majority of the time, like I can black/white kids, but hey maybe it is because many times, being raised in the family I was raised in, I can tell when black folks "pass" for white. I've seen dark skinned hispanic, asian, and indian folks, people darker than me who aren't black, so I don't think it is a matter of skin coloring. I see dark skinned black couple have light skinned, mixed looking children all the time, hell I have a brother who is the perfect example of that. White people have been making babies with black people for centuries, they might not have taken care of those children in the past, but they don't mind making mixed race children with black people. I can still see Strom Thurmond in Essie Mae. I am sure Sandra Liang looked like both her white parents, just a darker version, with maybe a kinkier hair texture. Do white people flip out if they have red headed children, if both parents have dark hair, or if they have a child with brown eyes, even if neither parents have brown eyes? Do they cry if the kid has curly hair, instead of straight hair, like themselves? Or do they see themselves in those children and attribute it to recessive genes. Can they still see themselves or does eye color and hair color distract them from seeing the family resemblance?

I think black folks for the most part can accept that this country has been racially mixed for a long time, but white people, not so much. The concept that a white person might be "part black" scares the hell out them. I think it is because even though many white people claim to embrace multiculturalism, they still believe in the one drop rule too. The concept of being black, even with a black president, even when the "advanced race relations" that exist, there is still the belief in this country that being black is less than. I think this book represents that. The fact that the mother is scared to look into her history for fear of being black, and the shame that the father and his family feel for having a "dark skinned" child, speaks volumes about the value of whiteness in America. Even though we spout the "equality" diatribe over and over, in America the races aren't seen as equals and never have been. Being white is a commodity, being black is a liability, even if it is just a small percentage of blackness, the feeling is the whiteness is diminished, making some whites view their whiteness as less valuable.

So my question is this, is whiteness devalued when mixed with other races (asian, hispanic, etc.), or just when mixed with black?


Brandon McClelland Proof Of The Continuing Racial Divide

On September 16. 2008, Brandon McClelland was struck by a truck and dragged 70 feet by the truck. The two people in the truck were supposedly friends of McClelland, and were white. He was supposedly with the two friends in the truck, but ended up out of the truck and hit by the truck with his "friends" in it. His friends in response to the dragging did not call the police about the "accident", but went to wash the truck to get rid of the evidence of what happened. They also left his body on the road, where it was discovered the next day to look like a hit and run.

The argument by many white people in Paris, is that they were friends going on a beer run and the guys in question were drunk not racists, because they were McClelland's friends. They had known McClelland for 10 years, and McClelland himself went to jail for perjury trying to give one of his friends an alibi. The belief is outsiders are coming to Paris, TX to cause trouble and there is no racism in Paris, or not as much as "outsiders" want the world to believe. That there is no proof to prove that they intentionally hit the victim, that is was all an accident. The problem with this is we don't know what the evidence is, authorities refuse to release evidence on this case to the public.

On the flip side, many blacks tend to find it hard to give these two guys or the Paris, TX justice system the benefit of the doubt. This is the hometown of Shaquanda Cotton. The town isn't known for being a bastion of racial equality. It is also known as the town that held one of the most publicized lynchings in U.S. History. It seems that injustice might occur, as authorities refuse to call it a lynching or dragging James Byrd style, as they argue McClelland wasn't tied to the truck, so it wasn't premeditated. Gary Young, the district attorney assigned to the case, was once a court appointed defense lawyer for one of the accused assailants. He has since stepped aside, but how did he end up with the case anyway? I should also note that the accused, Shannon Finley was on trial for shooting a white friend. He claimed it was an accident and that he was shooting at two black men armed with guns trying to rob him and his friend. The black robbers were never found, and there was no evidence of a robbery. While in prison Finley joined some white supremacist gangs, which is typically par for the course in prison, but it doesn't help this case not being tinged with racism. So far authorities refuse to call it a hate crime. So many feel justice will not be served, even though both men were indicted for murder by the grand jury.

My take on it as a former Parisite. I remember being told by classmates that it was against God for a white person to marry a black person and make children. I was told by a childhood friend, that America could never have a black president, because that person would be a assassinated, so it was safest that black people didn't run for president. I wish I could see that guy now, he is probably so concerned about Obama right now. I was called the n-word by classmates, asked why I use Crisco in my hair and as lotion (even though I never have), and told I was ugly with big lips and a big nose. I know I grew up on the "white side" of town, rich to some because I lived in a brick house versus a frame house. I know the school I went to was the "white school" and the school across the tracks was the "black school". Or once running into a white women who told me was from Paris, and when I shared with her I at one time lived there, she asked me did I know no fewer than three black people. I didn't know them, as I haven't lived there since 1990 and might I add I was 14 when we moved to Dallas. I think racism exists a lot more in Paris, than many whites are willing to admit, which is why so many are upset "outsiders" are coming in to report on this story. Also I don't feel that just because someone is "friends", doesn't mean they can't be racist. I knew many white guys who tried to talk to me who held racist beliefs. I know many white people who consider me their friend and say some of the racist things. Maybe Brandon McClelland was more of a friend to them, than they were to him. Maybe their relationship was lopsided and unbalanced, it still doesn't justify dragging a man under your truck, and you failing not to call the authorities if it were truly an accident and attempting to wash the evidence off of your truck.

I don't know how racism is not a factor in this case, especially given the history of the accused and the history of the town they live in.


Does sex with the "same sex" mean you're GAY???

Uuuhhhmmmmm YEAH. You were gay at that moment. You could be bisexual, but if you re having sex with someone of the same sex to satisfy a sexual urge, it makes you gay.

Off Topic: For those interested, I am doing an interview with Alexyss K. Tylor on Blogtalkradio tonight at 7:00 CST


Questions For The White Guys

In my post about Mike and his second interview with Alexyss K. Tylor. Mike made a great comment in which he stated:

I also feel that the "white male intention" caution flag is no longer serving many of these women and is actually preventing them from having a wonderful experience with a white man.

I responded giving him my own personal experiences and dating past. I tended to date white guys in which I was "their first", they had never dated black women before. Even now, of the white men I know who do date black women, rarely if ever have these guys tended to get into serious relationships with black women. I am not saying these guys are open to the idea of serious relationships, but it does make me wonder how many are considering a serious relationship with black women vs. something more casual and less serious?

As we know most guys tend to focus on less serious relationships, most guys on the first few dates aren't thinking how their dates, regardless of race are going to react to meeting their parents. The concern is more about how they are in bed and if their dates are willing and able. The idea of a serious relationship to a guy seems a bit more of a daunting task than it is to women. I think that race would be a factor to most men in regards to this, in particular if their families might have issues with this. I think this is why white men in particular are more prone to dating "non-black" women. It is more socially and status acceptable to date white, asian, or hispanic women. Dating black women is depending on who you talk to a "beta" thing, not a "alpha" thing. I was once told by a white women, that white men who date black women do so because the expectations for white men are lower in those types of relationships. That black women tend to expect less in terms of education, job status, and social status than white women. I don't know if that is true or not, but I found it a bit offensive.

I attempted to put up a poll on this, but I don't think the poll was getting honest answers as I think anonymous polling leads to trolling. So I am blatantly asking the white guys. How many of you here have actually dated black women? Of those who have, have you ever been seriously involved with a black woman? If you haven't been in a serious relationship with black women, but have dated black women, what keeps you from taking the next step? Are you open to getting "serious" with a black woman? What type of black woman would it take for you to "get serious"?


Original Sin

Inspired by C1s post.

The 2nd Part of the White Man/Black Women Relationships Interview

Here is part II of the interview I posted a while back.

I was actually contacted by Mike, the guy interviewed on the Alexyss K. Tylor show via email and in blogger post. He's a very nice person, and he could have easily cursed me out, as he did feel that some of the things I posted were a bit unfair, but he talked to me with nothing but respect, and I appreciate that. If you didn't read the last post and my critique, I felt that he was a bit unfair in the fact I felt that he was a guy who wasn't serious about black women, but rather interested in sex and short term flings, but nothing serious. I gathered this from the fact that the guy had dated pretty much black women exclusively to his admission, but married a latina woman. I then followed up that post with the Good Enough to F*ck, But Not Marry post, that elaborated on why I think the way I did about his interview.

In a display of kindness, he provided me a link to the second part of the interview, and in this interview, not only do we talk to him, but to an ex girlfriend. It was pretty interesting :)

Just to give you my two cents on the interview. It does put things in a bit of a different perspective, he met his ex on Craigslist, the sex was great, but he actually wanted a bit more (he asked her to move in and told her he loved her), but the ex did not. Since then, the ex has moved to Atlanta (he is in California). The ex admits she wasn't ready for that step, and it was not due to him, but to her. So maybe he isn't just into the short term flings. At one point in the interview, he is completely quiet, and the ex and Alexyss talk about sex and the ex explains how sex was with him, and it sounded like they were very sexually compatible. You can listen if you want the nitty gritty, and with Alexyss, you will get the nitty gritty each and every time, so if you are easily offended, I wouldn't listen. I am a pervert hoochie and like listening to her shows, they are entertaining.

I guess overall the interview was great, it did make me think I was unfair about my belief that Mike was a guy who was into nothing more than flings and sex with black women. I still have my white male intention caution flag up in the air, but I always have that, and it is something I need to work on. The only real critique is this time not from Mike, but the ex. She made a comment about her roommate being interested in dating IR, but felt she was too ghetto, and was the type of woman that would get used by white men and be a dirty little secret, as if there is a certain type of black women white men are willing to date, and that only ghetto women could be dirty secrets. The black woman who always comes to mind when I think of the white men keeping black women as dirty secrets, had an MBA, and wasn't what would be considered "ghetto". I feel her skin color alone is why the man she wasted time with treated her the way he did. He was ashamed and didn't want to get the flack from friends and family. I think most white men would be that way, which is why I made this post, The Ideal White Guy For Black Women.


The Conditioning Of American Black Women

Being a black woman is hard in America, essentially because the rules and expectations of you are completely different than with other women. The gender roles in the black community are not the same in the white community. White women had to fight to work, black women had no choice but to work. There are more clearly defined roles of feminine and masculine in the white community than in the black community. This is due to survival. Both my grandmothers worked, even though they had kids, they still had to work, not out of proving men wrong, but so their families had food on the table. Now, we won't forget that the traditional roles of men and women have been pushed upon us, but for the most part many black people don't follow these roles for a variety of reasons.

I went to school with white girls whose goal in college was to find a husband, once they found said husband, they would focus on his career, become housewives and mothers to their children. In the white world this is acceptable. If a black woman chooses to have such aspirations she is considered a gold digger wanting her man to work hard to take care of her while she sits at home doing nothing but eating and watching television. It is ok for a white woman to be a housewife, but for a black woman this is akin to sitting on welfare within the community.

Another thing we need to look at is education. White women are expected to go get an education, and when they do enter the workforce and move ahead it is considered a positive in the dating world to a certain extent. Black women do the same, and she has put her career before a man, and is damaged goods that deserves to be alone.

I've heard it said by some black men that one flaw of black women is that we expect black men to be on par with us or ahead of us financially and education wise, and that in order for a black woman to obtain a black man, she must "marry down" financially and educationally. In the white world this is all but unheard of. White men are expected to be the bread winners in their family, even if their wife is working. When they have children, the white woman is supposed to give up her career or slow it down in order to raise the family. Black women can't do that, we are considered "too uppity" by some when we expect to be with men who are on the "same level" financially and education wise. If a black woman dates outside the race to find a man "on her level" she is a sell out, and nothing more than a slave fantasy to the non black man who is with her. It is expected that non-black man is either with her for her money, or she is with him so she can be a gold digger. Than same man will be expected to call her the n-word, hide her from friends and family, and cheat on her with someone non-black. Once the black woman comes to her senses and leaves this non-black man, if she comes back to black men, she will be damaged goods, as no black man wants a black woman who has dared to be with a non-black man.

In terms of beauty, white women have it made in comparison to black women. The world tells them they are beautiful. Their white skin is a hot commodity. Even if they are overweight, they get love from somewhere, they are going to have someone want to marry them. We are reminded time again time again we aren't the ideal as black women. Our hair is too kinky and short, our noses, lips, and thighs are too big, and our skin is too dark. We are reminded of this by our marriage rates. When we do mange to get straight, long hair, and non brown eyes, it is shunned as being fake, even though white women can have collagen, butt implants, a breast enlargement, extensions in their hair, and numerous plastic surgeries and they will be considered attractive, and most men wouldn't care if they had plastic surgery or not.

Being a black woman in America is a Catch-22. You are really damned if you do, or damned if you don't. We are expected to be like white women, but chastised when we aspire to the same goals and aspirations of white women. We attempt in the best way possible to assimilate the beauty ideals of white women into our own, we are told it is ugly, unattractive, and fake. The conditioning of black woman is a harsh reality the black community needs to look at. What are the gender roles, and how do we define those gender roles. We want it both ways, we want traditional roles, but then again we chastise those who fulfill or attempt to fulfill those roles.

In the end this conditioning causes confusion, frustration, anger and resentment; it also is a cause for the low self image and esteem so many black women have. We have to figure out how to change this thinking. How we can as black woman improve our self worth and rid ourselves of this conditioning?