2009-11-15

I'm Not A Real Wife-NSFW

Twitter is at it again, on Friday a trending topic was born, #arealwife. Now I asked my husband what he thought a real wife was, and thankfully his definition falls in line with mine, but according to some, I'm not a real wife:



If a man beats me, I'm going to snitch. Maybe you shouldn't be concerned with snitching, but maybe some anger management classes or therapy. No person should ever have to take a beating from their spouse, that isn't being a good spouse, but being a victim of abuse.




I'm all about being submissive, at times, just like my husband is submissive towards me. That is part of compromise, sometimes you take a step back and let the other lead, but you don't do it without question and one spouse does not have authority over another.

I am sorry, but I didn't go to college and get a job for the sole purpose of cooking. If I wanted to cook, I would be a chef. I cook for my husband because I want to cook for him, not because it is required of me. My husband sometimes cooks for me.

I thought give and take was part of every relationship, I guess I was wrong.



I didn't know my purpose in life as a wife was to fuck and feed my husband. I thought I had other qualities and characteristics he found attractive outside that realm. Yes I like to cook, yes we have sex, but I thought marriage was more than cooking and sex. I also thought my husband was actually interested me and my opinions, maybe I was wrong.



If my husband has to go to another "bitch" because he isn't getting sex from me, than there are other issues to discuss such as, why is he not getting sex from me? Am I frigid? Is he doing something I don't like? Maybe I'm sick or actually have a headache? If I don't "suck the shit out cha dick" properly, I would really like for my husband to at least be able to talk to me about it. If I am casual enough with you to put your penis in my mouth, we can have a conversation about what I do when said penis is in my mouth.



My husband has never asked this of me. I am glad, I don't think I could buy my husband a lap dance and watch some other woman dance for him topless. It might make me uncomfortable. Much like I don't think my husband would be cool with some man gyrating his crotch in my face. Maybe we are insecure, or maybe, just maybe, we don't partake in strip clubs? Crazy I know as all men are supposed to love strip clubs, but my husband does not. It kind of creeps him out.



Uuuhhhhmmmmm NO. If my husband is having "downlow" relations with another woman, and I find out, more than likely I will not be sticking by him, as I would feel betrayed. I did not sign up for an open or polyamorous relationship, so that is not something that is going to work for me. I know this sounds horrible, but I don't understand the purpose of having an exclusive relationship, unless it is monogamous. That is my belief system though, if others are ok with this so be it.

I think the thing that amazed me about these comments were the fact that many came from women. I wonder if they are married, or if they are single and trying to impress some internet men. I think it is also scary to see these comments because I thought the younger generation of men and women had left misogyny behind, but it seems it is out in full force. What causes this archaic view of women in the year 2009?