Dark Girls

This is a documentary that is coming out later this year, exploring colorism and racism. I'm kind of interested. I find it odd though, that some of those women identify as dark skinned, when to me they might fall into the medium complected category. Maybe they grew up like me, and had people who had never really been around dark people, tell them they were dark or they were the color they were because they were "dirty"?

I remember growing up and my mother calling me "black as smut" when I darkened from playing in the sun all day. I didn't grow up thinking that was a bad thing, but I guess if my appearance warranted comments, it must have been a concern or somewhat noteworthy to my mom. I also knew folks who used Ambi and other bleaching creams on their face to lighten up their complexion.

No matter what the reasoning for people using bleaching cream or my mother calling me "black as smut", I will say I think colorism is a big thing in the black community and that many times it is disregarded by the black community, much like racism is dismissed by many in the white community. How do we expose colorism without offending lighter skinned blacks? How do we address the issues of self hatred in the community, when it isn't even acknowledged?

I won't even address the natural hair and black men response to dark skinned women issues addressed. I've addressed that many times before.


Dishing Money Out To Black People

I'm amazed that there are people in this world under the impression that the government just hands out money to black people. In matter of fact I just talked to a man today who told me that the Democratic party won the black vote by "dishing out money to them". I want to know what money? Where the hell is my money? He was talking about welfare and other public assistance. I've never been on welfare or public assistance. I also want to note that welfare and public assistance isn't limited to black people. I've seen some white folks on it, as well as hispanic, and yes even Asians.

Why is it that welfare and public assistance is associated with black people? I kind of want to blame black people. Not all black people, but people like Jon Singleton, members of N.W.A., and the guys who did "Poetic Justice" and "Menace II Society". I know that this was supposedly to expose the gritty reality of gangsta life and living in "da hood", but not all black folks are living like this. I think Ice T's name is Tracy. Tracy!?!?!? How hard can you be with a name like Tracy. Ice Cube's name is O'Shea. O'Shea!!! How is that gangsta? That name sounds like someone who speaks in limericks and drinks a lot of Guinness, not gang bang.

Damn you Roc, Damn you. Y'all know you remember Roc.

But then I blame mainstream America for running with it. Never do we see American History X and assume all white people are skinheads who viciously assault black people. Or do we think that all white people are inbred people capable of man rape and wanting folks to squeal like pigs because of Deliverance.

How do we stop the foolishness. This to me is the reason we can't have an honest dialogue on race, because when people come up with this nonsense and run with it, we can't get past the stupidity to get to the meat of the argument.


You Miss Me?

Probably not :) However the last year or so has been really freaking busy. Children are no joke. I have a newfound respect for parents, especially stay at home moms. Just because you stay at home, it does not mean you are sitting on your ass watching TV all day. I do miss blogging, but I just don't seem to have the passion anymore and there was lots of opportunity to blog about stuff since I've been away. Donald Trump. Shirley Sherrod. The Tea Party in general. Lots of stuff.

I think I'm going to try to jump back in the waters. Albeit slow. I have found facebook is way to dangerous of a place to rant, especially since I do it with people I know in real life. I don't think people know how angry and black I am :)

OK my realizations since my last postings here:

  • Children make everything take twice as long. It takes twice as long to get dressed. Twice as long to eat. Twice as long to get in and out of a car.
  • Sometimes kids don't want to eat applesauce or bananas, but they do want to eat some stank old animal cracker found underneath the deep, dark, underbelly of a couch
  • Playdates are great for social interaction for the baby, but for the mom it makes no sense to be surrounded by other women and to befriend them simply because their kids are around the same age. Some moms are AWESOME. Others I want to give the stank eye to.
  • My boobs no longer belong to me.
  • Babywearing saved my life.
  • My life no longer is solely mine. There are days I want to drink a bottle of wine, but I don't because I have other stuff to worry about.
  • I'm even more of a evil godless liberal than I thought
  • I'm still angry and black, but I'm tired because people just seem to be stupid, and you can't fix stupid.
  • I still need to blog on occasion and I really need to get back into the swing of things outside of Rabbit Land. Blogging would be one thing that was part of my life before the baby.
So I guess I'm saying. I'm trying to make a comeback on this blog. Wish me luck.