I've had you for over three years now. You're awesome. You're sweet. You're really smart. You're also the most beautiful thing in all of my world. I love you bunches, and my job is to be your mom, but sometimes as a mom I fail you, and I'm sorry. I'm supposed to protect you and defend you, but sometimes I don't. I have come to the realization if there is conflict in the room, I always assume you're at fault. I shouldn't do that. Yes, you've taken toys, yes, you've probably said or done things you shouldn't have, but I should have the common sense and foresight not to assume. You can talk now, and you talk a lot, so I need to just realize I can ask you, listen to you, and listen to your side. You are worthy enough to listen to. I will not believe that you should only be seen and not heard. You're voice is important and deserves my ear.
I've been taught all my life to expect the worst. Just because I was taught that doesn't mean you should be. You deserve to know that there is a good and bad side to just about everything in the world. You are going to be living in a world in which people will make assumptions about you, so why as your mother should I pile on? You're going to be viewed as a black woman in America. People are going to assume a lot about your based upon your appearance. People are going to say things to you that aren't fair. There is going to be a lot of generalizations, and that's not fair either. So as your mom, I'm going to try harder.
I'm going to make sure I don't fear you are to blame for all "conflicts" at play dates. I'm going to make sure that you love your hair, your skin, and just you in general. I'm going to make sure I stick up for you when grown ups make mistakes.
I'm sorry Rabbit, you aren't always the center of all trouble, and I shouldn't assume you are. You are not inherently bad, you are a three year old, and like all people you are multifaceted. You are you are growing, learning, and changing by leaps and bounds every single day. You deserve better, and I'm going to give it to you.